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Good manners as an element of worldly success-Manner an index of

character-The true gentleman-The true lady-Importance of

trifles - Value of pleasing manners Personal appearance

enhanced and fortunes made by pleasing manners-Politeness

the outgrowth of good manners

Acquaintances thus formed-Promiscuous, informal and casual intro-

ductions-Introduction of a gentleman to a lady and a lady to a

gentleman-Introduction at a ball-The manner of introduction

Introducing relatives - Obligatory introductions - Salutations

after introduction-Introducing one's self-Letters of introduc-

tion-How they are to be delivered-Duty of a person to whom

a letter of introduction is addressed-Letters of introduction for

business purposes

The salutation originally an act of worship-Its form in different

nations-The bow, its proper mode-Words of salutation-Man-

ner of bowing-Duties of the young to older people-How to

avoid recognition-Etiquette of handshaking-Kissing as a mode

of salutation-The kiss of friendship-The kiss of respect

ETIQUETTE ON CALLS.

Morning calls-Evening calls-Rules for formal calls-Calls at Sum-

mer resorts-Reception days-Calls made by cards-Returning

the first call-Calls after a betrothal takes place-Forming new

acquaintance by calls-The first call, by whom to be made-

Calls of Congratulation — Visits of condolence - Keeping an

account of calls-Evening visits-"Engaged" or "not at home"

to callers-General rules relative to calls-New Year's calls

ETIQUETTE ON VISITING.

General invitations not to be accepted-The limit of a prolonged visit

-Duties of a visitor-Duties of the host or hostess-True hospi-

tality-Leave-taking-Invitations to guests-Forbearance with

children-Guests making presents - Treatment of a host's

ETIQUETTE OF CARDS.

Visiting and calling cards-Their size and style-Wedding cards-

Leaving cards in calling-Cards for mother and daughter-

Cards not to be sent in envelopes to return formal calls-Glazed

cards not in fashion-P. P. C. cards-Cards of congratulation-

When sent-Leave cards in making first calls of the season and

after invitations-Mourning cards-Christmas and Easter cards

-Cards of condolence-Bridegroom's card

Character revealed by conversation-Importance of conversing well

-Children should be trained to talk well-Cultivation of the

memory Importance of remembering names-How Henry

Clay acquired this habit-Listening — Writing down one's

thoughts-Requisites for a good talker-Vulgarisms-Flippancy

-Sympathizing with another-Bestowing compliments-Slang

-Flattery-Scandal and gossip-Satire and ridicule-Religion

and politics to be avoided--Bestowing of titles-Interrupting

another while talking--Adaptability in conversation-Correct

use of words--Speaking one's mind--Profanity-Display of

knowledge-Double entendres-Impertinent questions--Things

to be avoided in conversation-Hobbies--Fault-finding--Dis-

DINNER PARTIES.

Dinners are entertainments for married people-Whom to invite-

Forms of invitations-Punctuality required--The success of a

dinner party-Table appointments--Proper size of a dinner

party-Arrangement of guests at table-Serving dinner a la

Russe-Duties of servants--Serving the dishes--General rules

regarding dinner-Waiting on others--Monopolizing conversa-

tion-Duties of hostess and host-Retiring from the table-Calls

required after a dinner party-Returning hospitalities-Expen-

sive dinners not the most enjoyable-Wines at dinners

TABLE ETIQUETTE.

Importance of acquiring good habits at the table-Table appoint-

ments for breakfast, luncheon and dinner-Use of the knife and

fork-Of the napkin-Avoid fast eating and all appearance of

greediness-General rules on the subject

RECEPTIONS, PARTIES AND BALLS.

Morning receptions-The dress and refreshments for them-Invita-

tions-Musical matinees-Parties in the country-Five o'clock

teas and kettle-drums-Requisites for a successful ball-Intro-

ductions at a ball-Receiving guests-The number to invite-

Duties of the guests-General rules to be observed at balls-

Some suggestions for gentlemen-Duties of an escort-Prepa-

rations for a ball-The supper-An after-call required

STREET ETIQUETTE.

The street manners of a lady-Forming street acquaintances-Recog-

nizing friends in the street-Saluting a lady-Passing through a

crowd-The first to bow-Do not lack politeness-How a lady

and gentleman should walk together-When to offer the lady

the arm-Going up and down stairs-Smoking in the streets-

Carrying packages - Meeting a lady acquaintance Corner

loafers-Shouting in the street-Shopping etiquette--For public

conveyances-Cutting acquaintances-General suggestions

ETIQUETTE OF PUBLIC PLACES.

Conduct in church--Invitations to opera, theatres and concerts-Con-

duct in public assemblages-Remain until the performance

closes-Conduct in picture galleries--Behavior at charity fairs-

Conduct at an artist's studio

TRAVELING ETIQUETTE.

Courtesies shown to ladies traveling alone-Duties of an escort-Duties

of a lady to her escort-Ladies should assist other ladies traveling

alone-The seats to be occupied in a railway car-Discretion to

be used in forming acquaintances in traveling.

RIDING AND DRIVING.

Learning to ride on horseback-The gentleman's duty as an escort in

riding-How to assist a lady to mount-Riding with ladies--Assist-

ing a lady to alight from a horse-Driving-The seat of honor in

a carriage-Trusting the driver

Proper conduct of gentlemen and ladies toward each other-Prema-

ture declaration of love-Love at first sight-Proper manner of

courtship-Parents should exercise authority over daughters-

An acceptable suitor-Requirements for a happy marriage-Pro-

posals of marriage-A gentleman should not press an unwelcome

suit-A'lady's refusal-A doubtful answer-Unladylike conduct

toward a suitor-The rejected suitor-Asking consent of parents

-Presents after engagement-Conduct and relations of the en-

gaged couple-Lovers' quarrels—Breaking an engagement

WEDDING ETIQUETTE.

Choice of bridemaids and groomsmen or ushers-The bridal costume
Costumes of bridegroom and ushers-Presents of the bride and
bridegroom-Ceremonials at church when there are no bride-

maids or ushers-Invitations to the ceremony alone-The latest

ceremonials-Weddings at home-The evening wedding—“At

home" receptions-Calls-The wedding ring-Marriage ceremon-

ials of a widow-Form of invitations to a reception-Duties of in-

vited guests-Of bridemaids and ushers-Bridal presents-Mas-

ter of ceremonies-Wedding fees-Congratulations-The bridal

PAGE.

HOME LIFE AND ETIQUETTE.

Home the woman's kingdom-Home companionship-Conduct of hus-

band and wife-Duties of the wife to her husband-The wife a

helpmate-The husband's duties

First lessons learned at home-Parents should set good examples to

their children-Courtesies in the home circle-Early moral train-

ing of children-The formation of their habits-Politeness at

home-Train children for some occupation-Bad temper-Sel-

fishness-Home maxims

Cultivate moral courage-The pernicious influence of indolence-Self-

respect-Result of good breeding at home-Fault-finding and

grumbling-Family jars not to be made public-Conflicting inter-

ests-Religious education-Obedience-Influence of example-

The influence of books

WOMAN'S HIGHER EDUCATION. ·

Its importance-Train young women to some occupation-Elucation

of girls too superficial—An education appropriate to each sex-

Knowledge of the laws of health needed by women-Idleness the

source of all misery-A spirit of independence-Health and life

dependent upon a higher culture-Cultivation of the moral sense

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