"ill bred," but to impart that information by which anyone may be enabled to acquire gentlemanly ease, or graceful ladylike deportment, so that their presence will be sought for, and they will not only learn that great art of being thoroughly at home in all societies, but will have that rarer gift of making every one around them feel easy, contented and happy. To what extent the object of the work is attained, we will leave to our readers to decide. The author desires to express his thanks to those ladies who so kindly and materially assisted in the preparation of the chapters on the toilette, dress, &c., and hopes that the precepts laid down in this work be not followed as infallible oracles, but that they be combined with that good sense and good judgment, which alone are the touch-stone of all true gentility and good manners. The good will of women-Social connections-Being natural-With whom to associate-What to tolerate-Common place speech-Modesty-Re- spectful deference-Ease of manner-Distinctions in conduct-Long usage Selecting company-Good sense-Qualities of a gentleman- By relatives-Saluting and shaking hands-First introduction-Second or subsequent meeting-The obligations of-After an introduction— While traveling-Introductory letter to ladies-Receipt of introduct- ory letters-Requesting a letter of-to society-Bestowing of titles- Proper forms of-Ceremonious phrases-Casual introductions-Speak the name distinctly-Introduction of a Lady to Gentlemen-in other countries-With permission-Without permission-Meeting on the street-Morning visitors-Introducing yourself-Assisting a lady in Forms of salutation-Of different nations-Words of salutation-For- The value of knowledge-A good conscience-Good character-A well in social intercourse-Slight reflections-Improving by conversation- CHAPTER VI. 55 70 Visits of congratulation—Of ceremony or calls--Time to make ceremo- DINNER PARTIES AND BALLS. 91 116 Invitations-Reply to-Arriving too'...e-Manners at Table-Dress neat- hostess--Paring fruit for a lady-Dipping bread into preserves-Soup- Fish-General rules regarding Dinner-Watching how others do-Urg- ing guests to eat-Waiting on others-Monopolizing conversation- Signal for leaving the table-Dancing-Giving a ball-Choice of guests --Issuing invitations-Prejudices against dancing-Notes of interoga- tion-Variety of toilette-Choice of attire-Evening party-The cloak room-When to arrive-Refusing to dance-Giving a reason for not dancing-How to ask a lady to dance-Leaving a ball room-Talking too much-Wall flowers-Duties of gentlemen-Duty of ladies-While dancing-Grace and modesty-Private party-Public balls-Visit of thanks-Deportment in public places-General rules for a bail room- Recognizing friends on the street-Omitting to recognize acquaintances -Shaking hands with a lady-Young ladies conduct on the street-Ac- companying visitors-Fulfilling an engagement-Conduct while shop- ping-Taking off your glove-Asking information--Crossing a muddy street-Expensive dress in the street-Carriage of a lady in public -Forming acquaintances in public--Demanding attention-Meeting a lady acquaintance--Stopping a lady on the street--Passing acquaintances -Crowding before another--Giving the arm-When to offer the arm-- Returning a salute-Passing before a lady-Corner loafers-Shouting— Gentlemen walkingwith a lady--Crossing the street-General rules- Passing through a crowd-Saluting a lady-Ascending a mountain- Meeting on the street-Intrusive inquiries on meeting-Smoking while Etiquette of riding-Riding in public--Riding with ladies-Assisting a lady to mount-Pace in riding-Meeting friends on horse back-Meeting a lady-Assisting a lady to alight from a horse-Entering a carriage-As- A lady traveling alone-On arrival of the train-Arriving at destination Rushing for a ticket office-Personal comfort-Rushing for the table- Social intercourse while traveling-Occupying too many seats-Retain- ing a seat-Etiquette of street cars-Etiquette of ferry boats-Check- ing familiarity-Duties of ladies to other ladies while traveling--Con- sulting the comfort of others--Attention to the wants of others-Self- Church Etiquette-Visiting an artist-Conduct in picture galleries-Invi- Letters of introduction-Letters of friendship-The family letter- Charms for procuring love—A woman's judgment-Love and marriage DOMESTIC ETIQUETTE AND DUTIES. Duties of the wife-Avoid all cause for complaint-Beware of confidants -Regarding money matters-How to keep a home-Avoid concealment -Avoid all bickerings-Becoming conduct for a wife-Solomon's de- scription-Duties of a husband-Things to remember--Accompany your wife to church-A breach of domestic etiquette-Taking your wife into your confidence-Let her manage her own affairs-Avoid unneces- sary interference-Be always ready to praise-Avoid comparisons- |