What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid BetrayalSimon and Schuster, 04.09.2012 - 304 Seiten "One of the foremost relationship experts at work today applies the insights of science toward understanding the real meaning of trust between a couple. He decodes the "why" behind betrayal and shows how partners can avoid or recover from unfaithfulness and maintain a loving relationship.Dr. John Gottman, the country's pre-eminent researcher on marriage, is famous for his Love Lab at the University of Washington in Seattle where he deciphers the mysteries of human relationships through scientific research. His thirty-five years of exploration have earned him numerous major awards, including from the National Institute of Mental Health, the American Psychological Association, and the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Now, Dr. Gottman offers surprising findings and advice on the characteristic that is at the heart of all relationships: Trust. Dr. Gottman has developed a formula that precisely calculates any couple's loyalty level. The results determine a relationship's likely future, including the potential for one or both partners to stray. A Love You Can Trust shows couples how to bolster their trust level and avoid what Dr. Gottman calls the "Roach Motel for Lovers." He describes how the outcome of--"sliding door moments," small pivotal points between a couple, can lead either to more emotional connection or to discontent. He suggests a new approach to handling adultery and reveals the varied and unexpected non-sexual ways that couples often betray each other. A Love You Can Trust guides couples through an empirically tested, trust-building program that will let them repair and maintain a long-term, intimate, and romantic relationship"-- |
Inhalt
Assessing Your Trust Metric | 1 |
The Three Boxes | 22 |
I Didnt Mean for It to Happen Why Cheaters Cheat 4 Men Porn and Sex Drives 42 59 | 42 |
Ten Other Ways to Betray a Lover 65 83 | 65 |
Trust and the Roots of Attunement | 83 |
The Art of Intimate Conversation | 91 |
Turning Toward Each Other | 100 |
Working Through Your Messes Big and Small | 109 |
Recovering from Infidelity | 146 |
Connecting Through Intimate Sex | 173 |
How to Know if Its Time to Go | 200 |
A LifeSaving Skill | 227 |
Why Some Couples Stop Having Sex | 256 |
Acknowledgments | 271 |
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What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal John Gottman,Nan Silver Eingeschränkte Leseprobe - 2012 |
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